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Monday, June 04, 2007

Remembah my name

Hey, remember how I was interviewed by the local news for a piece on Shape of a Mother?
Well, it's finally airing. If you live in the Delaware Valley of Pennsylvania, you can see it on CBS 3 on Thursday on the 11 o'clock news. After it airs, a link to the story is going up on their website; once that happens, I'll post a link (if it's not too embarrassing and I don't look too much like an ass, that is).

Jury is still out on whether I will actually send photos to Shape of a Mother, as I ended up with a few small stretch marks in my 40th week (shazbot! I was so close), and I am totally fucking vain.

8 Comments:

At 10:51 AM, Anonymous wordgirl said...

I look as though I was clawed by an angry weasel, but there's no way I'm putting it up in a picture for people to see. That, my friend, is vanity.

 
At 12:03 PM, Blogger Arabella said...

If you do it, then I'll do it. Then all the world can see my big hyperpigmented laparoscopy scar on my linea nigra. I'll even show you my C-section scar when next we meet, although I won't be posting that anytime soon. :)

 
At 1:28 PM, Blogger Mignon said...

Hey. I've been thinking about this since yesterday. I applaud the attention you've given to SofaM - it's something I look at admiringly for the brave women who post there. But. I don't think you're being fair or true to the cause. To say that you would post a photo there if you looked better is to indirectly cast judgement on the women (us) that didn't end up with perfect skin.

See, I understand not wanting to expose or post pictures of your stretch marks. That's how I feel. But I also wouldn't want to post a picture if I weren't stretched. I'm not that okay with my body. Depending on where you read it, between 10% and 50% percent are lucky enough to escape getting stretched, so it's as if you're embarrassed to look like the rest of us. The majority of us. And that makes me feel bad. For me and for you.

Also, I'm curious how you feel about it 9 months from now when your hormones are more balanced and you're settled in to motherhood. I bet you'll care significantly less. I remember feeling awkward and ashamed for at least 8 months after the birth of Madeleine.

The end.

 
At 4:48 PM, Anonymous TB said...

Your post, and Mignon's comment brings up a lot of feelings for me too, for very different reasons.

I'm ashamed that I was so happy not to have gotten stretch marks. I feel incredibly guilty that for the last two months of my pregnancy, I was ecstatic and smug that I hadn't gotten any stretch marks when it turns out the reason I didn't have any was that my placenta had degraded and the baby wasn't growing.
When I look at my stomach in the mirror, I'm embarassed that I cared so much about something so trivial when my baby was in jeopardy, even though I had no way of knowing it and it wasn't because of anything I did.
I could never post my photo at SoaM, for totally different reasons than you.

 
At 6:10 PM, Blogger Mrs. Harridan said...

OK. I know that you know that it was never my intention to make anyone feel bad about themselves. BUT. I'm not going to pretend that I wish I had gotten worse stretch marks. I don't wish that - no one would. I don't think anyone should feel bad about having them, and I applaud women who wear them like a badge of honor. Am I ever going to be one of those women? Maybe, maybe not - I guess we'll see in a year, as you say.

But in the meantime, I stand by my right to be vain.

 
At 7:44 PM, Blogger Mignon said...

Yes, I stand by my right as well, which is why I wouldn't post a picture before OR after pregnancy. I was talking to my husband about it, and he said it seemed the only problem in what you've said was that you said it out loud. Meaning, I perfectly understand feeling pretty good about yourself until some imperfections appeared. But because those imperfections are what the majority of us carry and you stated that those imperfections are what make you embarrassed it smarted.

There are things about myself that I really like that not a lot of people have, and if they went away because of pregnancy, aging, or any other normal process I would be bummed. And I can imagine if I said them out loud you would probably make the same comment I made above.

Meaning, no harm done. I still think it's cool that you would even consider posting a picture there, and I still think you've got an adorable, alert, cute-as-pie little boy. xx And I still like you uh lot.

 
At 11:23 PM, Blogger PikPR said...

Hi! I don't know if you remember me, but I worked with Chris and met you once with the baby. I was working on my laptop at home and heard your name on the TV and looked up and there u were! I couldn't believe it! Well, you looked great:) My friend just had a baby 2 weeks ago - I think she'll be interested in the site.

Hope all is well with you all!

 
At 12:25 AM, Anonymous Melissa said...

well, I saw you. I thought you looked great, sounded good, etc. Your hair is a little darker than the picture at the top of your blog isn't it? For all I know that pic could have been taken years ago. Anyway, good job!!

 

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